Stress Levels

Everyone deals with stress every day of their lives, in one way or another. Unless you are living off the grid, in the wilderness, you are probably dealing with all kinds of stress; financial, housing, work, family, neighbors, the list can go on and on if you break it down.

        How do you deal with the stress? 

Some times stress can be relieved, for a short period of time but enjoying a drink or two, not my first choice but it's always an option. Financial stress can be taken care of by adjusting how they spend the money they have coming in. Housing, well this goes along with the financial aspect, keeping your finances in order will help keep your housing. Work stress can be released at the end of the day, this is difficult but it can be done. Neighbors, well, that's a tough one, if you're not getting along with your neighbors then it's probably best to avoid them. Family is hard to deal with for many reasons, do your best to not pick fights or cause problems and hopefully they will have enough respect to do the same.

What about stress when it comes to dealing with your emotions. Emotion stress is probably the hardest thing to deal with, it is possible though. One thing you need to be able to do is look at yourself, honestly and with an open mind about how you behave towards others and how you react to conflict.

When you suffer from mental and emotional problems, controlling your emotions can be even harder. One thing I had a reminder of recently, is that when you are so stressed that you are shaking,  you pass that stress on to others, including babies. Babies, as most people know, react to stress by crying, scratching themselves, not eating or sleeping, there could be other ways but that is what I have seen first hand.

I think it is important to get help for yourself, if you suffer from emotional problems, whether it's depression, anxiety, panic attacks or you have been through any type of abuse; physical, mental, emotional, sexual, you need to get help. You need to talk to someone, find a way to deal with what happened, to find a way to work through the feeling when you feel something happening. Learning coping techniques could help in multiple situations that you find yourself in throughout your days.

What I recently saw was someone who does not know how to deal with an abusive father. In person contact has not happened for many years, the father has shown very little interest, but yet the son allows the father and his past abuses to dominate his life. He spends his time wanting things from his father that he will never get and he refuses to see that he is allowing his father to run his life. He uses his anxiety and depression to get what he wants from others, sympathy, attention, for others to feel sorry for him. When he was told that he cannot see the baby when he is that stressed, his first option was to NOT see the baby for a week. He sees the baby 4-5 hours each visit, once a week and does not think he can use the other six days to effectively work on dealing with his problems.

If your problems are that serious, you need to be in therapy, you need to put a sufficient amount of time into learning to cope and deal with your problems in ways that will help keep them from running your life. If you suffer from anxiety, depression, panic attacks, have been abused in any way, get help, do not put it off any longer, get the help, whether it's through medication or just talking to someone or both, seek help.